You will forget

Here we are talking about the third “law of evolution”: “You will forget.”
I hope that the first two helped you understand some of the mistakes you’ve made along the way and how you could correct them. I also hope that you are actually doing something to change your life, based on what you’ve learned so far.
The problem with change is not that it is hard. It is not the change itself that is hard.
The biggest problem in making a change is that we keep forgetting what we set up to achieve.
It is not even about the action itself. It is about the decision we’ve made, when and how we made it.
When you decide to make a change and take your first action about that you are in a certain emotional state. You are aware of WHY you want to change what you want to change, you are aware about HOW you could change that and WHAT you need to do.
You are aware both of the reason and the process.
Then your emotional state changes. You just go from motivated to unmotivated, from enthusiastic to being totally passive.
Actually what happens is that you forget the reason why you started what you started. And I am not talking about the technical, rational reason, but the emotional-one.
Any change you want to make in your life, it actually resides in your actions. But to take efficient action you need a plan and then the action itself.
When you have the motivation at the beginning, you have a certain feeling. Based on that feeling, you “construct” the plan and then you start taking action.
Then your old you kicks in.
Your brain’s purpose is to save energy and to prevent change, to keep you far away from anything that is unknown and is potentially dangerous. We will elaborate this in the next article.
What you need to focus on in this article is that you can manage to maintain a certain emotional state for a short while, you can “remember” it for a few days or maybe a few weeks and then, if you don’t do something specific for this your feelings change.
For how long do you manage to maintain the same emotional state? It is almost impossible to do it for more than a few minutes maybe. At a physiological level (meaning in your body) there are over 20.000 emotional reactions during a usual day.
If you have a few hundred emotions that resemble, they become a feeling, then if you have the same kind of feelings for a while, they become your emotional state.
You dominant feelings make you who you are.
So if you are used to feeling passive, without motivation, not being able to make the change you want. This is your way of being most of the time.
When you have an idea, you read something, watch a video, read an article that changes your feelings, you tend to see the world through those new feelings.
With those feelings come new ideas and solutions.
You can even come up with a plan and then start implementing it.
Then your feelings come back to “normal”.
And this is the point when you know WHAT you should to, HOW to get where you wanted to be, but you lack the emotional WHY.
Actually you can’t access the feeling that your whole plan and action started with.
Basically it is like you’ve forgotten a huge part of the whole plan, that something that it started with.
This is why the third law sais “You will forget.”
Because the moment you cannot access the feelings that all started with, you lose the memory of the WHY.
So what you should do is this…
When you have a feeling of motivation and you start acting, find something to anchor the feeling.
It can be a melody, it can be a phrase that you read, an image of someone who motivates you, anything that helps you remember the feeling.
It is important to find that something in the exact period that you are having the motivated and enthusiastic feeling.
You can use several things at once, the mage the music, the words…
Find a combination of these anchors and then keep it before yourself as long as possible.
Especially when you are in the action, “charge” that anchor with the all motivation and enthusiasm.
Make yourself aware again and again of that charge.
It is the simplest and best way to maintain the connection to that feeling that helped you start the change in the first place.
It is not enough to have a plan for a change. It is not enough to start the action itself, because if you cannot take the feeling with you, you will forget the moment your feeling changes.
And as you’ve probably noticed there are enough people around us to remind who we were and why we shouldn’t or couldn’t make a change.
All these people are those who change our feelings and emotions back to who we were.
And change becomes difficult, almost impossible if you cannot access that overwhelming desire to take action.
Remember the feeling, remember the WHY and then take action.