It will not be easy

Let’s discuss the first idea of the “Laws of evolution”, as I called them.
“It will not be easy.”
Unfortunately, because of the modern personal development, the ease we have access to the information on the internet, makes people believe an idea that is not true.
Most people think that evolution, meaning changing things in our lives is easy.
I’ve worked with hundreds of people and obtained results of which some therapists only dream of.
All of them were based on these principles and laws.
When a client comes to me and tells me how upset he or she is about not being able to make a change or a shift in their lives, I always tell them: “it is normal to have difficulties”.
Most people think that if they understand something, that understanding should bring a change by itself. And although most of the time the change is not happening, we still manage to deceive ourselves with this promise: if I understand it, it will change.
Change is difficult. It is simple.
Changing thing is our lives means changing habits.
Changing your health status means changing your eating habits, and the way you use your body on a daily basis.
You cannot change your financial results if you don’t change your habits in how you make and how you use your money.
You cannot change your relationships unless you change the way you think about people, the way you relate to them, the way your habits create your relationships.
You cannot change the way you relate to women unless you change the way you habitually think about them and habitually behave around them.
So changing anything in your life comes down to changing your habits.
Now let’s see what changing a habit means.
Changing a habit means to change a routine that your brain “installed”.
After repeating something enough times, it becomes a habit. The same way you learned how to walk, how to write, how to drive, the same way you learned through experience how you should react to everything around you.
This becomes a habit.
The way you manage things in your life is based on prior experience.
You brain pushes buttons according to your past experiences, most of them being learned in the first zero to six years in your life.
Our attitudes and behaviors are “installed” in this period of our lives.
What is right and wrong, fair or unfair, ugly, beautiful, good, bad, all of them have their origins in our first years of life.
After this our brain just triggers the proper reaction and helps you quickly decide how you should react to things around you and to your experiences.
Habits are installed by repetition. Changing a habit means to first become aware of it and then repeat something else enough time for your brain to give up the old-one.
Most people have a problem with becoming aware of a limiting habit. It is called “This is who I am.”
Then some people become aware of it and tries one or two times, obviously not enough to change something.
Then they settle with “it is just not working”.
If a kid wants to learn, an adult needs to be near him until he manages to do it. The same way, if you want to teach a kid to write, you need to practice with him until he writes.
The same way, if an adult wants to make a change, he needs to work on that change until it really happens and stays changed.
And if the change you are trying to make is something really valuable, something really important and with impact, it means that it will be harder to change than a small insignificant thing.
If the change in your life is big or significant, prepare for the work to be as equally challenging.
If the expected change is big, it means that the habits you need to change are quite complex or there are a lot of them that need changing.
Changing one small habit is quite challenging.
If the change you want to accomplish is significant, then so will be the habits sustaining it.
And this means work my friend.
Training your subconscious mind is a tough job.
It means effort on a medium and long term.
Think of it as training a horse that you bought.
It already has an education it already has habits.
And it also has absolutely no obligation whatsoever to listen to you.
You have two choices: you force it to do what you want, and in this case you might end up with a horseshoe in your face, or the second choice is to study it, learn its habits and then gradually re-train it with sugar cubes, showing it what you really want it to do for you.
This means repetition of the new habits, patience and repetition again, until you make it work.
This website will gradually teach you how to make the changes you want to make.
After I describe all the six laws, I will start a series of articles that will tell you exactly what to do to make the necessary changes in yourself to see the changes in your life.
You will also have tips and tricks of how to re-train your horse.
Step by step.
See you in the next article with the second law.